Have you ever felt like much of the world around us rejects investing in the institution of the family? Possibly because they themselves were hurt by family or possibly their parents’ marriage was painful? For those that are followers of Jesus, we know that God ordained the institution of marriage and family. Christians should believe that the written Word of God is God-breathed inspiration to protect the value of families.
Ephesians 5:17-21 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. 18 And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit,……. 21 submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
This is the context of the Apostle Paul inspired by the Holy Spirit setting up God’s way of doing family. We see from scripture that in the new covenant something changed. God is now calling every believer of Jesus, family (using family terminology like children, sons, daughters). He instructs us to do the same for other Christians as He treats us ( again more family terminology like brothers, sisters, fathers, mothers).
Submission sounds like an evil word if you think of how the world operates but Jesus was changing the perception of the disciples by showing them submission is serving. You may understand Peter didn’t want his feet washed because He knew Jesus was the King of kings. In the earthly kingdom, Peter had witnessed Rome use their authority to demand submission through fear. The higher the authority of Rome, the more people to wash their feet. When Peter refused submission, Jesus said something stronger than “Get behind me Satan” to Peter. Take a look:
John 13:8 NLT 8 “No,” Peter protested, “you will never ever wash my feet!”
Jesus replied, “Unless I wash you, you won’t belong to me.”
Wow, Jesus was changing the way Peter was thinking about submission. You see Jesus didn’t come to be served but to serve. The highest authority washed the feet of others. Jesus came to show His kingdom is the opposite of the world. When the Apostle Paul spoke of the church, you again see family terminology.
Ephesians 5:22-25 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
He is speaking of church intertwined with the family. As a lead pastor and elder in our church, I am intentional to run the government of our church the way we do our family at home. In my house, there is a tremendous amount of serving one another that begins with my example as the father in the home. Submission to one another in my home means that we receive willingly from one another. We share in the (chores) burdens of the home (Galatians 6:2). So very often, my wife and I humbly receive from the youngest child to the oldest. I make an effort to serve my wife and children in love and submission as Christ who served me. You see in our darkest moments, Jesus doesn’t withdraw from serving but pursues our attention. We can come boldly to Him when we are dirty from the dust in the world and tired from serving others. He is always happy to wash our feet and often reminds us to humble ourselves to receive a foot washing from others as well. You see even Jesus had his feet washed by a woman that the religious rejected. He showed us how to submit to one another and do family or as Paul called it, the church.
Ephesians 5:26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.
Wait a minute, “I love Jesus but can’t stand the church leadership”……. ever thought this? Yeah, me too. For years, I told anyone that would listen, “I love people but can’t stand the institution.” “The institution cannot be from God” was my thoughts…… or was it possible the root was I was feeling bitterness and hurt by church leaders in authority that God chose to call holy and without blemish? So I resisted the church institution because it didn’t serve me the way I thought it should. How did I resist the institution, you ask? I refused to have my feet washed by those in authority and continued this pattern until one day my kids became pre-teens in our home with attitude. The humorous thing is that I fully expected them to submit to my authority, yet couldn’t help but reflect upon my own submission patterns. You may know this already but children will follow what they see more than what we say as parents. The Lord encouraged me in my spirit that submitting to others is serving the Lord. So I repented openly to my family for resisting submission and encouraged them to allow me to serve them as the leader and priest of my home and I was learning to be open to receive from them as well.
Romans 12:9-11
9 Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. 10 Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. 11 Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically.
Brandon Pollard
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